Can't Stop Craving Your Ex? Here's What a Sexologist Recommends (4 photos)

Surveys show that two out of three married people admit to thinking about their exes regularly. Another study revealed that 43% of single women and 47% of single men routinely sleep with an ex while searching for new love. Why is hooked-up-with-an-ex sex so irresistible? A renowned British sexologist explains that there are plenty of reasons people long to slip back into bed with former lovers—and shares how to overcome these guilty cravings.





Sexologist Tracey Cox weighed in on what to do if your current partner doesn't quite stack up in the bedroom compared to your ex. She notes that several factors drive people to revisit past flames, but mostly, people miss the established chemistry—after all, former lovers already knew exactly what turned them on.

So, what should you do if an ex is stuck in your head and you still feel the spark was better with them than with your current partner? Cox says it’s a hurdle you can overcome—and it’s surprisingly straightforward.



First, pinpoint exactly what made sex with your ex so appealing, then try to recreate those elements in the bedroom with your current partner. For some, the thrill comes from the fact that the relationship is already over, making the intimacy feel more forbidden and adventurous. To inject that same passion into your current relationship, try spicing things up a bit.





Communication is key: talk openly with your partner about what turns you on and what doesn't. Very few people find someone who is a perfect sexual match right off the bat. It takes exploring each other's preferences and adapting as you go.



One golden rule: never tell your current partner how amazing your ex was in bed. Whenever you catch yourself daydreaming about a former flame, remind yourself why you broke up in the first place. Even if the chemistry was off the charts, the relationship failed everywhere else—which is why you moved on.

Regardless of the situation, always trust your gut. If your current relationship feels underwhelming overall, you might simply be with the wrong person. It's better to call it quits rather than drag things out for both yourself and someone you don't feel deeply about.

Meanwhile, Twitter users have been sharing their biggest bedroom turn-offs. It's definitely worth a read—if only to avoid making the same mistakes yourself.