Why do young people in India ask for arranged marriages (7 photos)

It would seem that what could be greater happiness in life than choosing your own life partner? And in India, this has finally become available to free, educated youth. But no.





Young people, without any coercion from their families, still ask matchmakers for pimping and finding a mate. It would seem that this has long been a relic? But no, no matter how much the matchmaker profession is ridiculed on various TV shows in India and America, they still occupy a very strong position in Indian society.



In a black sari in this photo - a matchmaker, she is proud of her work - she arranged this wedding

And this is how matchmakers explain this phenomenon.

A recent study found that 60 percent of young Indians accept arranged marriages and 81 percent are happy with their families after such marriages.

The thing is that Indians consider choosing a spouse the most important event in their lives. And they realize that they are too young to make the wisest decision.

Yes, in India they use online dating apps (more than 40 million users) and even make appointments. But many Hindus, especially girls, are not happy with the outcome in the prospect of marriage.





This is a photo from an advertisement for dating apps in India.

There are too many fake advertisements, embellished questionnaires, and no one checks the data from the questionnaire about education and work. Declaring in a questionnaire on the website that you are a doctor with a stable job and proving this to the matchmaker before she introduces you to the bride - there is simply a huge gap between the two.

There are even more serious, wedding dating sites. But dowry scammers almost immediately settled on them. The men even rented a house and a car to meet the bride's serious parents in style. They simply did not have the skill to “get through” all the information about such a groom.



Marriage agencies in India look... very modern!

Outsourcing tasks to more competent people

This is how matchmaking is still viewed in India not only by parents, but also by the young people raised by them. Yes, no one will forbid them to get married if they meet and fall in love at the University, where the education and intelligence of the groom can be seen.

But if you couldn’t find someone you’ve known for a long time, most young people forgive their parents and hire a matchmaker. According to Indian tradition, this is considered the direct responsibility of parents; children may even complain that their parents did not try hard enough and did not find the best “copy” for them.



Arranged weddings are also secured with a very VERY expensive celebration, then try to get a divorce - your parents will die

In addition, when the girls were allowed to study and pursue a career, they suddenly discovered that they were not achieving anything. And meet, and study, and build a career!? You can’t entrust your career to anyone, but finding a groom is easy.

In this case, smart, educated girls simply follow the most materialistic path. Moreover, in this case, you can verbally be “free and without prejudices,” and quietly tell the matchmaker to look for a groom only from the right caste, despite his education.



In India, at Universities, girls and boys communicate freely, dress modernly

False statistics?

Matchmakers boast that there are far fewer divorces in arranged marriages. However, the truth is that “everyone suffers.” In India, a country of 1.3 billion people, only one in a thousand marriages ends in divorce.

This is because divorce is stigmatized, especially for a woman who will be treated like a second sun. That's why everyone is afraid of getting a divorce.



The lot of a widow in India is still very unenviable, thank you for not burning