The Addams Family is a great example of a healthy relationship (7 photos + 3 videos)

The history of the infernal family has become known since 1938, when the American artist Charles Addams began drawing comics about them for a newspaper. And the Addamses gained worldwide fame after the 1991 film adaptation (the 1960s film adaptation was popular only in the USA).





At first glance, it is not entirely clear why psychologists came to the conclusion that this family is ideal: Morticia and Gomez love to joke about death, remember what poison killed grandpa and discuss types of guillotines. The children, Wednesday and Paxley, play scary games, are withdrawn and have a rather depressive view of the world. However, this is where you can find something that families that seem ideal (only on the outside) often lack.



It’s worth starting with the fact that the parents in this family do not control their offspring, do not try to adjust them to society, to make them “convenient” for it. The Addamses respect the opinions of each of the children.

The parents themselves do not hesitate to demonstrate respect, passion and tenderness for each other (albeit in a very unusual way). Gomez constantly talks about how beautiful his wife is, and Morticia supports her husband in absolutely everything. And all this is seasoned with passion, as if their romance had just begun.



Movies almost always show examples of very unhealthy and often codependent relationships - jealousy, increased control and the feeling that partners are about to separate. All this is dressed up in a beautiful wrapper of “being in love” or “caring”, but in reality it is psychological violence. If we recall the beloved “The Notebook” by many, then even the very beginning of a couple’s relationship begins with pressure and coercion (hanging on a Ferris wheel and extorting a date from a girl is not a very good start). It’s clear why screenwriters use these techniques - they are interesting to watch, but healthy relationships are simply boring to watch.



But because the Addams family is in unusual circumstances, their harmonious and "boring" relationship becomes truly interesting. This family will always stand by each other no matter what happens. In this way, the basic criteria for healthy relationships are met. Some of them can be considered using the example of a family.

Hear and listen

In a family, everyone's voice is very important. The Addamses don't have anyone whose opinion they don't count on, be it a child or even "The Thing." They always consult with each other, children and adults are always very close to each other. They are attentive to everyone's mood and do not ignore the mood of anyone in the house.

Acceptance and significance



Each of us wants to understand that his opinion is important to a partner or parent. The Addamses are a family in which all its members are completely different and accept each of them, despite the difference in views and interests.

Marticia and Gomez constantly talk to each other about their feelings and cannot imagine their lives without each other, which, of course, fuels trust and love within the couple. No one in the house discounts each other's feelings.

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